Motivation. We may think we know why we are motivated to lose weight and look our best, but could our idea of why we are motivated really be holding us back? Sometimes we think we intend to lose weight but in reality we intend to stay the way we are, only that intention is hidden.
This morning I began questioning why I am having difficulty losing weight when losing weight has been easy for me before. Why do I lack conviction? Why do I sabotage myself? I found some answers through focusing, or as my teacher Tom Brown Jr. would call it: inner vision or looking within. I began with the question, “Why do I want to lose weight?” I surrendered to nothingness and waited for the answers to arise, one by one. The answers that returned were wishy washy and lacked conviction: “I want to look good. I want to be healthy. I want to feel good. I want to be my best.”
I was puzzled by the lack of conviction I felt so I asked myself, “Why do I not want to lose weight?” and surrendered to nothingness to feel the answers arise within me, one after another as I peeled back the layers of my motivation to stay as I am: “Looking my best scares me. I feel safer when I am heavy. Looking less than my best helps me to be invisible. More will be expected of me if I look and feel my best. I’m too angry to want to look good. Thinking about looking my best makes me feel like I want to cry and die. I feel vulnerable when I think about looking my best. I feel broken when I think about looking my best. I want to scream at the image of me looking my best. I want to scream at everything when I think about looking my best. I feel pain when I imagine myself looking my best”
Wow. These answers, as I go deeper and deeper are getting more painful and violent the deeper I go. I have some very real issues regarding looking good. I have some strong programming about staying heavy and tired and ill as I am.
This is a lot to take in. I am going let this information simply be for a while and let my conscious mind ponder these answers.. I will work on this later. My brain is on overload right now. More later.