One of the words Patricia Evans talks about in her book “The Verbally Abusive Relationship” is the word “should”. To tell someone they “should” do this, or “should” do that, is a controlling way of communicating. Shoulding is of the ways we abuse ourselves and others. Shoulding suggests shame if you don’t do what you … More Is Someone Shoulding on you? Are You Shoulding on Yourself?
I have noticed in the last couple of years that my belly thinks . . . or rather, I should say my belly feels. When I want to know how I am feeling, my awareness falls into my belly to see. When my awareness is in my brain in my head, I think, I don’t … More The Belly Brain: Exploring Emotions
I sat on the wooden steps of my back porch. Though the day was sunny and warm, the feeling of darkness inside me was consuming. The feeling was that of anger, fear, and hatred, but mostly hatred. I wondered if the darkness was the influence of some evil spirit, or if it was a part … More Conversation With Darkness
I scheduled an appointment with a therapist about a week ago (if I am suffering from conversion disorder, therapy is key in recovery) and one of the things she said to me before we got off the phone was, “I also do medical hypnotism which I think could help you get better.” My first reaction … More How This Illness Served Me
Tracking intense emotions . . . . . .. . … . .. . . . .. . .. . .. . … . In my last post I made this brash statement: “Understanding how shame is affecting me, and understanding how shame began when I was young and how I … More Tracking Your Emotions.
Shame on me . . . OR NOT! “Daring Greatly”! I’ve been reading Brene Brown’s book called Daring Greatly. Brown is a shame researcher and her book is hitting home with me, big time! I even dreamed last night about all the ways I feel shame. Let’s see, there’s the mother in me, … More DARING GREATLY versus SHAME ON ME!