Is Someone Shoulding on you? Are You Shoulding on Yourself?

One of the words Patricia Evans talks about in her book “The Verbally Abusive Relationship” is the word “should”.  To tell someone they “should” do this, or “should” do that, is a controlling way of communicating.  Shoulding is of the ways we abuse ourselves and others.  Shoulding suggests shame if you don’t do what you … More Is Someone Shoulding on you? Are You Shoulding on Yourself?

“The Verbally Abusive Relationship” By Patricia Evans : A Book Review

In the last 5-6 years I have been working diligently to over come verbal abuse in all it’s forms in my life through clear communication.  For some people, like me, clear communication was blocked by my fear (see the next blog on fear).  But now, after coming through such a great learning of life’s lessons, … More “The Verbally Abusive Relationship” By Patricia Evans : A Book Review

"The Verbally Abusive Relationship" By Patricia Evans : A Book Review

In the last 5-6 years I have been working diligently to over come verbal abuse in all it’s forms in my life through clear communication.  For some people, like me, clear communication was blocked by my fear (see the next blog on fear).  But now, after coming through such a great learning of life’s lessons, … More "The Verbally Abusive Relationship" By Patricia Evans : A Book Review